Discussing end-of-life wishes benefits seniors and caregivers
It’s hard to think about end of life, especially when your older adult isn’t at that stage, but it’s critical to prepare for it ahead of time.
Understanding your senior’s wishes before a health crisis means that you and the rest of the family won’t be forced to make those difficult choices in the middle of an emergency. A living will helps you understand and legally document your senior’s wishes for end-of-life care.
Studies have shown that older adults often feel relieved after sharing their end-of-life wishes. It’s usually because they have specific preferences or don’t want to burden their families with those decisions.
What is a living will?
A living will is a legal document that lets a person state their wishes for end-of-life medical care. Family members and doctors use it to make decisions about medical treatments when that person can’t communicate or make decisions for themselves.
A living will can also be called an advance directive or a healthcare directive.
How does a living will work with a Power of Attorney?
A living will expresses end-of-life wishes and typically works together with a medical Power of Attorney (POA). In some states, they’re combined into one document.
The medical POA allows your older adult to choose someone to legally make medical decisions on their behalf. That person is called the healthcare agent or proxy for healthcare decisions.
With these two documents, your senior can control the types of treatment they’ll receive at the end of their life and who will make sure their wishes are carried out.
What’s included in a living will?
A living will spells out the medical treatments your older adult would and would not want to have.
Decisions in a living will usually include preferences for:
CPR / resuscitation to restart the heart if it stops beating
Mechanical ventilation to take over breathing if they’re unable
Tube feeding if they can’t eat or drink, either by IV or tube in stomach
Dialysis if their kidneys no longer work
Antibiotics or antiviral medications to treat infections
Comfort care (also called palliative care), which basically means keeping them comfortable and as pain-free as possible – it could mean dying at home, getting pain medications, being fed ice chips for a dry throat, or avoiding invasive tests or treatments
Organ and tissue donations for transplantation
Donating their body for scientific study
How does a living will help seniors and caregivers?
A living will helps you and your family make decisions about your senior’s care. If you don’t know their specific end-of-life wishes, you’ll have to make a best guess – a very stressful situation! Even worse, family members might end up arguing over treatments.
Also, if an older adult wants their unmarried partner or trusted friend to be in charge of their medical decisions, they must have a living will and medical POA in place. Otherwise, doctors won’t even be able to talk with them about medical decisions.
Different states have different laws for living wills
Living wills aren’t the same in all states. For example, in California, it’s called an advance directive and includes both a living will and a medical POA.
Whether you complete the forms yourself or use a lawyer, your senior needs to use the living will for their state. The National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization provides links to each state’s living will form and instructions.
Bottom line
A living will makes sure that your older adult’s wishes will be honored and often puts their minds at ease. If your senior is already incapacitated, talk with siblings or family to make decisions on their behalf and clearly document them.
Having these conversations and thinking through important decisions before a crisis prevents additional stress, guilt, and conflict during already difficult times.
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By DailyCaring Editorial Team Image: Alzheimer’s Care Specialists
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